Licking 101

Are you willing to give your girl oral sex? For some the answer is an implicit "No" while others are willing, but unsure as to how to proceed. The biggest turn off for most men is the possibility of a bad smell, but if the two of you take a shower together first, you've already gotten to some of the foreplay and you can make sure that she's smelling fresh and clean. Now what's your excuse? For many men they're just not sure what to do!

There are many ways to stimulate the clitoris, but licking should be taken into account as one of the best. Your tongue is already wet, so you don't need lubricants, you can reach places that your cock simply can't (whether you believe it or not) and you can do things with your tongue and mouth that you just can't do with other parts of your body. That's why licking is so good. A close second is kissing - and not just a quick peck, either!

Follow the techniques listed below for giving her the best mouth to pussy sex that she's ever had, and she'll be coming back for more - and therefore will be much more likely to return the favor...

You can get started by training your tongue muscles.

Some of these exercises can be done while you are working because you do them with your mouth closed. Others you should probably try in the privacy of your own home.

If you can roll your tongue into a tube (it's hereditary so don't feel bad if you can't) practice doing that until you can hold the position for a few minutes.

You can also practice sticking your tongue up against the back of your teeth and holding it there. The point is to increase strength and endurance.

Stick out your tongue and hold it for as long as you can without letting it touch the sides of your mouth or your teeth. Do 10 reps.

Roll your tongue like you are rolling your head slowly around your neck. This is an old yoga trick that helps strengthen tongue muscles. Start at the top of your mouth and roll your tongue around, keeping your mouth open and your tongue away from any resting points.

If you can learn to enjoy giving head, you will enjoy getting it all the more. She will be wetter, hotter, and be able to achieve orgasm more often. This will also let her know that you are relaxed enough with her body that you trust her to do the same for you. Above all, let's talk turkey; you will be very proud of yourself knowing that you give great head, and she'll probably tell a few friends, too.

Now that your tongue muscles and ego are ready to go, there are a few ways to get started, and some interesting techniques using the full mouth, tip, and flat of the tongue.

Start by rubbing her clit and outside of the vaginal lips within the palm of your hand. Even placing the entire palm over the vulva area and not moving will cause a tantric-like stimulation. This should start to lubricate her. With the tip of your tongue, start slowly licking the outside of the vaginal area. Take your time. Don't rush to put anything inside her at the moment. This is just about outside stimulation of the vagina, to lubricate, and to increase trust.

When you get the signal to go further--and this is usually indicated by her grabbing your head with her hands and moving you deeper into her--start licking her clit and the inside of the vaginal lips. If you flick the tip of your tongue up and down on the clit only, she should start to move around, moan, and throw her head back. Now you'll be happy that you did all of those exercises. Making a circular motion around the outside or edge of the clitoris is very stimulating too, but be sure not to press too hard as this area is extremely sensitive.

As the heat of the moment increases, so can the pressure and movement of your tongue. You can at this point just do whatever you want, and sometimes the faster and sloppier, the better. She'll let you know when you've gone too far or if you get out of line. One of the most important things to remember about giving head to a woman is to watch for cues that you are doing it right and then stick to that, the worst mistake you can make is to be giving her some of the best head that she's ever had, bringing her closer and closer to climax, and then switch to another method in mid pace.

If the two of you have great communication, ask her before you begin to let you know if she doesn't want to you stop what you're doing, rather than letting her know that it's okay for her to tell you to stop something she doesn't like. Most women won't tell you even if they know its okay to do so, but are much more likely to let you know not to stop.

I thought it was a joke when I first heard about giving women head by making the outline of the various letters of the alphabet with your tongue on their clits, but it's true, it works. You don't have to concentrate so much and there is enough different movement that you can keep it up so an extended period of time, if need be.

And now a few word of caution. Dental dams are a favorable way of giving head without making contact with the skin. They are thin, relatively available, and are inexpensive. If you don't know each other that well, I suggest you use one. STD's contracted through mouth to vaginal contact are particularly hard to get rid of, and embarrassing to explain. It's not fun to talk about, but responsible adults need to consider it as an option. The HPV virus is transferred this way, and can cause lesions in your throat and difficulty swallowing. Herpes, Hepatitis B, and gonorrhea can also be transferred this way, as well as HIV, although this is rare.

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