10 Great Sex Games To Play

Sex is one of the greatest joys that human beings have in life. It can provide pleasure not just physically, but through the spiritual and emotional connection that it provides to another human beings. Scientists have also proven that we need touch and intimacy in our lives in order to remain psychologically healthy. Although messages about sex have often been given to us as children or young adults that it is dirty or wrong, nothing could be further from the truth for two healthy, consenting adults.

But even the healthiest of sexual relationships may need some spicing up from time to time. In the process of a long term relationship, sexual activities may become routine or dull if they are not kept intentionally exciting by the couple involved. This means that the couples have to recognize when there is a period of dullness or boredom in their sex life and they have to be willing to talk about it in a manner that is not threatening or blaming to the other person. In fact, the unwillingness to discuss a period of difficulty in a couple's sex life is the most damaging thing that can happen to a couple - much more damaging than the sex life itself.

The fact is, spicing up your sex life is not only easy once you've recognized the need, but it can also be a hell of a lot of fun. The only limits to your enjoyment are your imagination and your comfort levels. In exploring the hundreds of sex games and options that there are out there, this is perhaps the most important factor to remember; you must both be comfortable with the idea that you are considering trying. Otherwise, the closeness and enjoyment of your sex life that it is intended to supply will actually backfire. If it's not fun for you both, it's just not worth it. Hopefully, one or more of these 10 suggestions will pique the interest of both you and your partner - or at least inspire you with other ideas that will have you romping around with the same pleasure and excitement you felt when you were first together.

1 - Like a Virgin - in this role playing game, one of you pretends that it is your first time having sex. Although you might think that the woman would be the one to play this part, consider how hot it could be for the man to play the role - giving the woman the chance to be the aggressor or leader in the bedroom may be a switch that you will find incredibly exciting.

2 - Strip Poker - although adventurous people have often played this in groups, try a special game with just the two of you. Although you won't be playing for money, you can still set some kind of sexual stakes. Decide what the winner or loser will have to do, but make sure that it's something that both of you would enjoy. That way, no matter who wins or loses, you'll both really win.

3 - Look Alikes - in this game, another form of role playing, you ask your partner to dress and act a certain part that would fulfill a fantasy. This doesn't have to be a specific person. It could be as nondescript as "slutty blond," or "frat boy." This way you can experience different ways of interacting with each other sexually in a very nonthreatening way.

4 - Strip Tease - this is a big hit with men, although women may also find it quite appealing. If you want this one to really know your lover's socks off, be sure to incorporate some kind of particularly sexy outfit into the routine. Choose your music carefully, keeping his or her preferences and tastes in mind, but being sure that it's a song you find erotic as well so that it really gets you in the mood. Practice your act beforehand too - preferably in front of a mirror. That way you can be sure to deliver a performance that really sizzles.

5 - Bondage Games - this one title actually refers to an entire array of sexual games. But all of them have one thing in common - one partner is giving up all control and power to the other partner. It's incredibly hot to not know exactly what your partner is going to do next, but you need to make sure that you have some form of 'safety word' so that the person being dominated can stop the activity if it gets too intense or uncomfortable. This is a game that you should only undertake with a partner with whom there is a great deal of trust.

6 - Play with Your Food - although your parents might not approve, your lover will. Add some chocolate sauce, some honey, some whipped cream or any other delectable goodie to some particularly sexy spots on your lover's body and have fun licking it off. But some quick words of warning - be sure you do this somewhere that you don't mind getting what's under you messy. It will be hard to enjoy the sensation if you're worried about getting stains on sheets or carpet. Plus, if you apply food to your genitals, be sure that you clean yourself thoroughly after playtime is over. Otherwise you risk irritation or infection from any food particles left behind.

7 - Secret Messages - In this game, you 'write' a message or word on your lover's back with your finger. They have to guess what you have spelled out. If they do, they get to tell you what to do to them. If they don't, you get to tell them what to do to you. Again, be sure that they are things that both parties will enjoy.

8 - The Pick-Up - here, you're doing a throw back to your single days. One of you arrives at a meeting spot ahead of the other. When the partner arrives, one of you tries to 'pick up' the other one, as if you are complete strangers. You can really spice this one up if you add to it some particularly enticing clothing or perhaps a new, sexy hairstyle or (for women) make-up style. Make up entire personas for yourselves, then add a nice twist by throwing in some new sexual moves that you've read about in preparation for the evening.

9 - Naughty Surprise - Take turns giving each other a sexy, slightly naughty surprise of some kind. For example, show up for dinner and whisper in your lover's ear that you're not wearing any underwear. Try some under-the-table fingering or stroking if you can get away with it. Or show up at your love's work at lunchtime wearing nothing under a trenchcoat and whisk them away to the nearest hotel for a quickie. Let your imagination run wild here, as long as you stay legal!

10 - Coupon Craziness - here, you provide your lover with a book of naughty coupons. Make them yourself or buy some from an adult novelty store. They should have a specific sexual or physical act on them, like 'one blow job' or 'one hour of sensual massage.' These are particularly helpful if there is an act that you don't particularly like, but are willing to perform on occasion for your partner. That way they don't have to feel awkward asking for it - they just redeem the coupon whenever he or she wants.

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