Sex tips | Foreplay techniques logo

 


How To Get Down 'n Kinky With Your Girlfriend

I guess first of all you'd have to define kinky, because one man's kinky is another mans ho-hum. One couple might find candle wax on bare skin as kinky, while another couple would yawn and go straight for the bondage equipment.

Typically, getting kinky means living out your sexual fantasies, whatever they may be. The dictionary defines kinky as "... showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes, especially of a sexual or erotic nature." So whatever you can both think of that you consider bizarre or deviant would define kinky for you and your girl.

Living out various sexual fantasies gives us the freedom to express ourselves in a manner that we would usually keep hidden. This bottled up sexual energy can leave us anxious and lead to depression; since so many people stick to the taboos around sexual expression, it's no wonder that so many people are on anti-depressants! This is another reason why it's important to talk about sexual fantasies with your girlfriend--without using it as a way to guilt trip her into acting out fantasies that she might be uncomfortable with.

She might have some fantasies of her own, but you can be sure that they probably revolve more around romantic encounters than sexual outlets, although sex is the end result. Discuss your sexual fantasies with her, and let her tell you some of hers. When you can come to a mutual agreement as to one or more of them, what's stopping you from acting on it? The end result is sure to bring you closer together as a couple, and if you can trust each other in kinky bedroom situations, you'll more than likely be able to trust each other in "real life" situations as well.

Trust

And that's what relationships and sex are all about; the ability to trust. Couples who are into extreme bondage will tell you that trust is everything in a dominatrix-subdued sexual relationship. One partner is offering to be subdued, trusting that the dominant partner in the relationship will not hurt them or humiliate them (at least not in public...). If you want to discuss kinky, go to the extreme and use this as an example.

So you've discussed your fantasies and hers, and she's agreed to try them out. She still may be a little shy about some of them, so choose a fantasy that is maybe not so close to her version of "kinky" at first. If all goes well, you can move onto more aggressive sexual encounters for your fantasy collection.

For example, maybe she is willing to participate but has never tried anything other than straight, missionary style sex. New positions, however enticing, might be self conscious for her. Try watching a porn movie together first. If you watch it with her and refer to the content more as a learning tape, she might be more willing to try to get her ankle behind her head. Another hint: don't bother taking it all very seriously, as sex should be fun, not a desperate attempt to live out fantasies through Kama Sutra positions that realistically neither one of you can manage.

Try costumes. And costumes, my friend, are easier to come by than you think. If it's nowhere near Halloween, visit the local adult toy store in your area. They have costumes for both of you, from the cable guy to the French maid. If you're still having trouble locating that special nun outfit, go online. You can fulfill all of your costume needs by ordering through cyberspace.

In fact, watching porno and dressing up are the two good first steps to real kinky sex, as women love to dress up. It's a safe way to begin moving toward a higher level of kinky sex later on. While you're shopping for costumes, check out the sex toy section for lotions and edible potions, furry handcuffs (another safe intro into the world of kinky bondage) and other neat toys. And by the way, do yourself a favor and don't try to introduce anal beads to her right away. This is often a lingering taboo with women and having things put in their ass is the last area you will want to aim at, so to speak.

Public places

Moving right along, an early form of kinky sex is sex in public places. This used to mean parking at an outlook and doing it in the car, but those days are behind you. Try the top of a parking garage. It's public enough to be kinky-risky, and the view is usually spectacular. Public bathrooms, although almost always open and available, are cliché, as are elevators, but hey, knock yourself out. Ask yourself, is it about having sex outdoors, or the thrill of the possibility of getting caught. If you're into kinky, it's about getting caught; the danger element. Armed with this knowledge, use your imagination.

Bondage and other fetishes are definitely a form of socially kinky sex. Shoe fetishes are great; here's your chance to buy her some very high heels. Other fetishes include water sports (being urinated on), enemas (for the very daring), and food sex. You can look them all up on the internet. If you are into bondage but have little experience with it, I strongly suggest that you attend an information talk at a club. If you don't know what you are doing, someone could seriously get hurt. A reputable sex club will have informational sessions for how to use the bondage equipment properly, what safety words are and how to use them, and even in most cases give you a tour of their facilities. These clubs are a safe outlet for couples who are into kinky sex and bondage and most of them have very high standards.

Sex clubs

Today they are largely referred to as sex positive community centers, and are a way to meet like-minded couples as well. If your fantasy is to have two women--and if you're a regular guy it probably is--you can meet willing participants at special social mixers that the club puts on. Again, the point of using a sex club is safety, discretion, and cleanliness. These people are typically of moderate to well to do income--not that it matters, they just are-- and the atmosphere is relaxed. They are under no circumstances pushy, in fact that is one of the biggest offenses one can commit at these clubs. The clubs also sponsor stage shows and some have excellent potlucks!

Finding someone for your threesome at these clubs is one of the very best ways to go. Having her invite her best friend into your bed is not. No matter how much she says she doesn't mind, when it comes to her best friend, believe me, she does. Hurt feelings and jealousy are almost always the result of having sex with two women at the same time who are friends in their daily life. Avoid this heartache and join one of the clubs.

With some considerations for both of your needs, a little tact and some lubricant, you can be having kinky sex with your girl in no time.

The best way to get kinky right away:

Send this page to a friend! If you like this article, send it to a friend!


RSS Icon Subscribe to RSS feed

Want more sex tips?

Subscribe to our newsletter and receive the best tips to your inbox, twice a week!

Name:

Email:


Recommended
reading:

How to be her best lover ever




Quick links:

Ügyvédi szoftver

Végrendelet

Munkajog

Válóper

Copyright © 2006-2009 SexGooroo.com, your destination for the best sex tips
Disclaimer and privacy policy

Link to our site! Bookmark us! Tell your friends about us!