Phone Sex

Phone sex has come a long way from the time of the anonymous heavy breather prank call. These days people are making that special kind of sexual connection from all across the country and even the globe. Phone sex can involve just that - the telephone, or it can involve the added medium of the internet with webcams. It can happen between two complete strangers or as a way for two long time lovers to heat up their love life. Anyone can learn to enjoy phone sex if they understand some general guidelines and use their imagination.

First, there are a number of benefits to phone sex. Someone who is far away from you can suddenly be right there with you in your imagination as you hear them tell you what they would be doing to you if they were actually in the bed with you. You can use phone sex as a way to explore fantasies that you have been afraid to bring up with a lover before. If you have been wanting to ask for a certain sexual act that you were embarrassed to bring up in person, sometimes it's easier to ask for it on the phone. In fact, if you get your partner to tell you what they are imagining, then you can also use phone sex as a way to learn what you can do differently for your partner the next time that you are there together live. And in this day and age when casual sex is no longer as physically safe as it once was, you can feel free to indulge in as much casual phone sex as you would like without fear of disease or pregnancy.

However, there are some cautions that you need to take. For example, if you are moving from an online relationship to a phone relationship, you will want to consider very carefully whether or not you want the other person to have your home phone number. With the internet, it is very easy to do a 'reverse phone number' look up and get your home address from your home phone number. Although the chances that you've connected with a dangerous person might be slim, they do actually exist. And it is always better for you to err on the side of caution. Just use your cellular phone or use a voice over internet phone service so that your anonymity is assured. For those of you who choose to bring a webcam into your phone sex play, just be sure that the webcam isn't capturing something else in the room behind you that could also help to disclose your identity if you want to remain anonymous.

So how do you actually begin a phone sex conversation? Well, that will depend entirely on who you are having the conversation with and whether or not they are entirely comfortable with the idea. If you aren't sure if the other person is willing to play along, start by talking about topics that will get you both aroused. For example, ask your partner to describe a fantasy that they have. If your partner starts saying something like, "well, there's this man, and he comes into the room from behind me and puts a blindfold around my eyes," then you can insert yourself into the fantasy by saying, "yeah, and what do I do next?" If you can get her to start using "you do this" or "you touch me there," then you're on your way.

You could also get the conversation turned to a sexy topic by telling your partner that you were thinking about a past hot sexual experience that you (or better yet, the two of you) had. Everyone wants to know about a time that they really pleased their partner. So try something like, "I was in the shower this morning and I started remembering that time that you ate my pussy in the hot tub and how the hot jets combined with your tongue felt just amazing." Or "I was lying in bed last night and I couldn't stop thinking about last week when you rode me so hard that I thought I would never stop cumming." Add a phrase like, "God, just thinking about it makes me wet/hard..." and see what kind of response you get. Ask them to tell you what their favorite time with you was, and try to get as explicit or detailed as possible.

Eventually, the question will come up as to whether or not to move on to the next level. Once you've established that you are both turned on, you can ask for details on how excited they are. You may have done such a good job that your partner is already touching himself or herself. But if not, you might need to lead the way by saying, "God, you get me so fucking hot... I wish you were here touching me right now..." Or "What would you think if I told you that I had my hand in my pussy right now?" They might order you to touch yourself, but move slowly if you're not sure. You don't want to scare the other person off.

But once you've got the green light to move ahead, what about the actual sex part of phone sex? Well, here is where your creativity will really start to pay off. You should try to act as if you are actually in the room with the person, having sex - only you have to describe it all. In fact, the more details you can describe, the better it will be because the clearer the picture your partner will be able to imagine will be. So instead of just saying, "yeah and I bend you over and fuck you from behind, "get more specific. Say, "I stand behind you and put my hands on your shoulders and bend you at the waist over the back of the couch. Then I spread your cheeks apart and slip a finger into your wet pussy as I guide my hot cock inside of you." Add some more details like, "I love hearing my balls slap against you while I pump your sweet pussy." Or, "I love the way your rock hard cock feels in my mouth." Don't be afraid to add some toys or even some sucking sounds - suck on your finger if you want. Every little detail will only help create the mood.

If you are the more comfortable of the two of you, you could just tell the other person what to do herself or himself until they feel more comfortable. For example, you could tell your partner step by step what to do. "Take off your panties. Now kneel on your bed. Turn on your vibrator. Let me hear it - put it up to the phone. Good, now hold it between your pussy lips but don't put it in yet. How does that feel?" This gives your partner the chance to participate without having to talk. Once he or she is more comfortable, you can switch roles and have them tell you what to do.

And every once in awhile, you'll want to check in with the other person as well. If your partner isn't enjoying the situation, you'll probably want to change gears. If they are willing to participate and you just need to alter the scenario that you're describing, give them the opportunity to tell you by asking, "What do you want me to do to you?" But if for some reason it's just not "working" in general, then you might want to abort the mission and wait until you're on your own to finish yourself off. Don't be discouraged if you don't have success the first time - some people still feel a sort of taboo when it comes to phone sex and will just need time to work up to it. However, once they get past any shyness, your imaginations can run wild and lead you both to a hot, wet and happy climax.

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